Chasing people is bad for your health

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When we are younger and perhaps when we first learn about love, our natural instinct is to chase it. We hunger for it and feel a bit like a loser if we don't obtain it. Everyone is sure to dream of a time where their love was as perfect as a movie scene. The truth of the matter is though no love story is perfect. We are all human and therefore prone to mistakes.
It is of utmost importance to remember that we are all senseless at times. Things hurt us, even if they are meant to be a joke or supposed to make us have a laugh. It is important to be mindful when pointing out our flaws or mistakes. Doing this too often has the ability to slowly ruin a partnership or relationship.
Sometimes, people grow apart. It just sometimes happens with the progression of life and as we set out to achieve our own goals and dreams. This doesn't mean that the love you all once had is just taken away; it's just that life sends us our separate ways. I know the painful hurt of this situation, but once it is dissolved, it is best not to chase after that person again. That usually just pushes them further away because it signals a sense of desperation.
It might take a while, but I promise you will overcome this and find someone else who may just be the actual love of your life, but you have to allow yourself to heal and grow first. You have to start over and begin to truly embrace yourself all over again. I am not going to say it is an easy process, but it is necessary.  Once you begin to fully love everything about yourself, you will see a transformation unlike any other, and you will only want to keep moving forward!

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